What is vaginismus? Have you ever experienced pain during penetrative sex, or when using a dildo, or even when inserting a tampon? When you’re having sex does it sometimes feel as if the opening of your vagina is ‘too tight’…
Valentines 2021: Couples Massage Course
Nothing says ‘I love you’ like giving and receiving massage… Valentines Day 2021 will be a very different experience for many couples. Without the usual ‘romantic dinner at a fancy restaurant’ to fall back on (thanks COVID!), what can you…
The Wave: an alternative to peak orgasm and ejaculation…
Moving beyond ejaculation… Separating orgasm from ejaculation is something I’ve written about in my previous blog ‘Sex without ejaculating – what’s the point?!’. But what can you do instead of ejaculating during masturbation or sex with your partner? What alternatives…
Sex Without Ejaculating – What’s The Point?!
Sex doesn’t have to end in ejaculation… The tantric approach to sex is about letting go of any goal, and intentionally avoiding the ‘peak’ orgasm (i.e. ejaculation and that feeling of involuntary clenching and spasming in your genitals). The first…
Anal Self-Pleasuring for Guys
What is anal massage? Anal massage involves touching, massaging, exploring and enjoying the area of your anus (your arsehole). It can include only external touch, or can also involve internal prostate massage (more about that in a bit). A good…
Erectile Dysfunction and Genital Massage
What causes erectile dysfunction? There can be many contributing factors that lead to erectile dysfunction (ED). It’s important to consult your doctor, and address underlying health concerns such as high blood pressure, diabetes, weight issues, stress levels or side-effects of…
A Guide To Lube…
What’s the best lube or lubrication to use for intimate massage and sex? This is a question that comes up a lot in my couples coaching sessions and couples workshops. Sensual intimate massage is lots more fun if you use…
Deep Penetration…
What is deep penetration/deep sex? Deep penetration, or deep sex, is any sexual experience that includes direct stimulation of the cervix. There is no actual ‘penetration’ of the cervix involved: fingers/penises/dildos/vegetables 😉 will not actually pass through the opening of…
Tantric Sex Positions…
Tantric sex positions for maximum full body pleasure… There are three basic differences (in my opinion and experience) between the ‘tantric’ approach to sex and the ‘regular’ approach to sex: Avoiding ‘peak orgasm’: Men do not ejaculate, they retain their…
Masturbation Coaching…
What it’s like to work with a masturbation coach… Is your masturbation routine boring, habitual and unsatisfying? You’ve probably never been more acutely aware of this than you are right now. Many of us are in lockdown, isolated, working from…