Tips from a tantric massage therapist Giving and receiving massage is a fantastic way to create intimacy, trust and connection in your relationship(s). Erotic massage can take the pressure off penetrative sex, can help you both to relax, can add…
Premature Ejaculation: How A Tantric Massage Can Help
Do you want to fix premature ejaculation? A prospective client recently wrote to me with a great question: ‘I’m a little confused, please could you explain how a massage session with you will help me overcome premature ejaculation?’ When it…
Tantric Masturbation: A Beginners Guide
The main difference between Tantric masturbation and ‘regular’ masturbation is the lack of a ‘goal’. Tantric masturbation can be a great way to increase body and sexual confidence through the judgement-free, goal-free, loving touch and connection with yourself.
Why Can’t I Orgasm With A Partner: Part 3
What you’re receiving is not what you really want…Firstly, do you know what you really want? Secondly, how do you communicate that in a loving and effective way to your partner?
Why Can’t I Orgasm With A Partner: Part 2
Squeezing and clenching instead of relaxing and letting go…As a bodyworker and masseuse specialising in intimate and sensual touch, I have seen that pretty much, without fail, every person that I’ve worked with who is experiencing some level of anorgasmia has chronic tension patterns in their body.
Why Can’t I Orgasm With A Partner: Part 1
The buzz could be killing your buzz… This is a question that I get asked by a lot of female clients. It was also a personal issue for me until about 10 years ago: I could reach orgasm when I was masturbating, but when I was with a partner I just didn’t…get there.
Vaginismus and Genital Massage
What is vaginismus? Have you ever experienced pain during penetrative sex, or when using a dildo, or even when inserting a tampon? When you’re having sex does it sometimes feel as if the opening of your vagina is ‘too tight’…
Valentines 2021: Couples Massage Course
Nothing says ‘I love you’ like giving and receiving massage… Valentines Day 2021 will be a very different experience for many couples. Without the usual ‘romantic dinner at a fancy restaurant’ to fall back on (thanks COVID!), what can you…
The Wave: an alternative to peak orgasm and ejaculation…
Moving beyond ejaculation… Separating orgasm from ejaculation is something I’ve written about in my previous blog ‘Sex without ejaculating – what’s the point?!’. But what can you do instead of ejaculating during masturbation or sex with your partner? What alternatives…
Sex Without Ejaculating – What’s The Point?!
Sex doesn’t have to end in ejaculation… The tantric approach to sex is about letting go of any goal, and intentionally avoiding the ‘peak’ orgasm (i.e. ejaculation and that feeling of involuntary clenching and spasming in your genitals). The first…