Acknowledgement and dialogue Talking about sex can feel vulnerable and uncomfortable, but if you can’t talk about it it’s possible that you’re not really emotionally ready to do it. Many of us grew up with a complete lack of dialogue…
The Orgasm Gap: Part 3 for Men
Learn to masturbate in a Tantric or mindful way The way you touch yourself translates to how you touch your partner and how present you are with her. The most common complaint I hear from women, about the way men…
The Orgasm Gap: Part 2 for Men
Foreplay is not just a warm up When you start to really understand and implement part one of this series, you will probably wonder what it is that you’re supposed to do during sex if it’s not all about getting…
The Orgasm Gap: Part 1 for Men
Is your female partner missing out on orgasms? A male friend of mine recently shared with me his sadness, upon hearing from two of his guy friends, that their female partners never orgasm during sex. He reported that ‘the guys…
How to give an erotic massage
Tips from a tantric massage therapist Giving and receiving massage is a fantastic way to create intimacy, trust and connection in your relationship(s). Erotic massage can take the pressure off penetrative sex, can help you both to relax, can add…
Premature Ejaculation: How A Tantric Massage Can Help
Do you want to fix premature ejaculation? A prospective client recently wrote to me with a great question: ‘I’m a little confused, please could you explain how a massage session with you will help me overcome premature ejaculation?’ When it…
Tantric Masturbation: A Beginners Guide
The main difference between Tantric masturbation and ‘regular’ masturbation is the lack of a ‘goal’. Tantric masturbation can be a great way to increase body and sexual confidence through the judgement-free, goal-free, loving touch and connection with yourself.
Why Can’t I Orgasm With A Partner: Part 3
What you’re receiving is not what you really want…Firstly, do you know what you really want? Secondly, how do you communicate that in a loving and effective way to your partner?
Why Can’t I Orgasm With A Partner: Part 2
Squeezing and clenching instead of relaxing and letting go…As a bodyworker and masseuse specialising in intimate and sensual touch, I have seen that pretty much, without fail, every person that I’ve worked with who is experiencing some level of anorgasmia has chronic tension patterns in their body.
Why Can’t I Orgasm With A Partner: Part 1
The buzz could be killing your buzz… This is a question that I get asked by a lot of female clients. It was also a personal issue for me until about 10 years ago: I could reach orgasm when I was masturbating, but when I was with a partner I just didn’t…get there.