The touch starved relationship: 3 ways to reconnect

Most relationships don’t lose touch because something dramatic happens. Instead, touch quietly and gradually slips out of daily life. This isn’t trivial. Touch is not just a ‘nice extra’ to have in life. When touch disappears, both partners feel it, often in different ways. Here are three ways to begin reconnecting that I’ve seen work through the course of my career as a Bodyworker and Intimacy Coach.

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How to stay hard when putting on a condom

If you find that you always lose your erection when you put on a condom during sex, you’re not alone. There are many benefits to condom use but they can also present a problem when it comes to erections, how much you can actually feel, and therefore your relaxation and enjoyment of sex. But, never fear, I’ve got some great tips to help you feel more at one with your condoms.

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The startle response and its impact on your pleasure

One of the most primal protective programmes running in our body and mind is known as the ‘startle response’. This reflex bypasses higher brain functions and jolts the body into immediate contraction and withdrawal. You may not even be aware of this deeply wired response to danger, but it’s likely it’s contributing to your difficulty in enjoying sex, intimacy and pleasure.

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