Fun and comfortable positions you'll both enjoy
Working with couples as they move through their pregnancy journey is something I really enjoy. As your body, your emotions, and your sex life go through some significant changes, making mindful adjustments to intimacy is a necessary (and exciting) part of the journey. For some couples, sex becomes even more tender and connected. For others, it might feel a bit awkward, uncertain, or physically uncomfortable. Touch and massage can suddenly take on more of a leading role when the ‘typical routine’ of sex needs to shift. The good news is that you can absolutely keep enjoying sex throughout most of pregnancy – you might just need to get a little creative with your positions. Here are three tried-and-tested pregnancy sex positions that are not only comfortable for your changing body but can also bring a lot of pleasure, connection, and fun.
Sex positions to try during pregnancy
1. Spooning (side-lying)
Trimester-friendly: All trimesters, especially third.
Why it works: No belly pressure, lots of skin-to-skin contact
In this position, you both lie on your sides, facing the same direction. Your partner enters from behind, keeping things slow and close. It’s gentle on the joints and offers body-to-body connection without putting any pressure on your belly.
💡 Bonus tip: Add a pillow between your knees or under your bump for extra support. This one is ideal for lazy weekend mornings or deep, sensual connection.
2. Seated lap-dance
Trimester-friendly: First and second (and some third, depending on comfort).
Why it works: You control depth and rhythm, while staying upright.
Have your partner sit on a sturdy chair or at the edge of the bed, and you straddle them so you’re face-to-face. This upright position gives you full control of movement, and can feel incredibly erotic – not to mention empowering. It’s also a great way to keep eye contact and feel close, especially when your belly starts making more horizontal front-to-front positions a bit trickier.
💡 Bonus tip: Use your hands to brace yourself on your partner’s shoulders – they can grab your butt cheeks for extra stability and safety 😉 Try small circular hip movements, or rocking your pelvis backwards and forwards, to stay connected to your body.
3. Modified 'doggy' (pillow-stack style)
Trimester-friendly: Second and third.
Why it works: No pressure on your back, and allows room for your belly.
Instead of being on hands and knees, try lowering your upper body onto a stack of pillows or the rolled up duvet, so you’re more comfortably supported. Your partner enters from behind, and you can adjust angle and depth with ease. It also means your partner can add some lovely, soothing massage strokes around your hips and through your lower back (which often get a bit achey from the second trimester onwards).
💡 Bonus tip: Use slow, rocking movements or gentle thrusts for a more grounded and nourishing vibe, rather than a dirtier, intense energy.
A final note on pregnancy sex
Every pregnancy is different. For some people, libido increases; for others, it completely vanishes for a while. All of it is normal. The most important thing is to stay in communication with your partner and your body – and make room for connection that isn’t only goal-oriented or about penetration. Laughter, cuddles, massage, and touch all create intimacy and pleasure too. If you’re ever unsure about safety, check with your healthcare provider – especially if you’ve been advised to avoid intercourse due to placenta previa, risk of preterm labour, or other conditions. If you want to learn about perineal massage and how it reduces the risk of tearing during labour check out my blog article or get in touch to book a session. Otherwise? Grab the pillows, relax the rules, and enjoy exploring!
With Love,
Libby
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